Update on my Husband

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First off, let me thank all of you who made comments and sent prayers and good wishes to me and Chris on my last journal, 2015 Was to be a Year of Recovery and Healing

I was hoping that 2015 was going to be a year of healing and recovery for my husband, Chris, who has Stage 3 lung cancer. He has been through 6 rounds of chemotherapy and 37 radiation treatments. He got a break in the month of December when he had no chemo or radiation treatments scheduled, just get his port flushed one day and get some bloodwork at the end of Dec. So, he had a month off, but he felt like left-over, reheated airline food dipped in shit, pretty nasty. He had bad headaches, nausea, constant unending hiccups, some kept him from breathing or swallowing, and that kind of scared him. When we went back to see the oncologist in the first week of January, the plan was to get CT and PET scans to see if the lung tumor had shrunk enough to send him to surgery to have it removed. That's what the plan was, anyway.
Well, it turns out the 2015 will be another year of...challenges. When Chris said he was having headaches, Dr. Rodriquez ordered an MRI of his brain. On
.  I did not have the time to answer all of you individually, though I really wish I could have.  You people are so special and kind to someone you have never met before and I can't tell you how much it meant to me.

But, now for the next chapter in this sad story.

The month of January and February have not been too wonderful for me.  As many of you know my husband was diagnosed with lung cancer in February 2014 and went through chemotherapy and radiation therapy and was doing very well.  He even had the month of December off, no treatments, no procedures, just some blood work and a port flush (for the chemotherapy, in his upper chest area).  We had an appointment with the oncologist the first week of January to start the process of seeing if he could go to surgery to remove the lung tumor after all the treatment.  We were looking forward to getting that done and getting him on the road to recovery.  Alas, that's not how things worked out.  The following are Facebook posts that I made about Chris' progress and the events that have occurred.

Posted on Facebook January 24, 2015

I was hoping that 2015 was going to be a year of healing and recovery for my husband, Chris, who has Stage 3 lung cancer. He has been through 6 rounds of chemotherapy and 37 radiation treatments. He got a break in the month of December when he had no chemo or radiation treatments scheduled, just get his port flushed one day and get some blood work at the end of Dec. So, he had a month off, but he felt like left-over, reheated airline food dipped in shit, pretty nasty. He had bad headaches, nausea, constant unending hiccups, some kept him from breathing or swallowing, and that kind of scared him. When we went back to see the oncologist in the first week of January, the plan was to get CT and PET scans to see if the lung tumor had shrunk enough to send him to surgery to have it removed. That's what the plan was, anyway.

Well, it turns out the 2015 will be another year of...challenges. When Chris said he was having headaches, Dr. Rodriquez ordered an MRI of his brain. On Jan 14, we got a phone call from Dr. Rodriquez's office to come in as soon as possible. The doctor wanted to discuss the MRI with Chris. When we got there, he pulled no punches as said, "the cancer has spread to your brain". Well, the bottom pretty much dropped out of our world about then. He did not say how many there were (multiple), how big they were or where in the brain they are located. Chemo therapy is not an option because chemo drugs do not penetrate the blood-brain-barrier, and since there are multiple tumors in different locations, it is probably not operable. He is getting radiation on his brain for a couple of weeks here in Natchez at Dr. Givens, but two of the tumors are close to his mid-brain and pressing on the area and they can't be reached with the radiation treatment they do here, Thus, we have to go to Jackson Tuesday and Thursday of next week to see a neurosurgeon and a gamma knife doctor about doing 1 gamma knife treatment on the two tumors in the mid-brain region. I guess we'll find out more next week. It's been pretty much, go here, see this doctor, get this scan, pick-up this prescription, go to Jackson and see what they want to do with your brain. Sounds like fun, huh? Not a whole hell of a lot. Chris feels terrible. I don't know if it's the tumor or the drugs, but It's like he's been replaced with a 4 year old Attila the Hun I just hope he can get himself up to go to the radiation treatments. We had to cancel two last week because he didn't feel well enough to get up and moving. It's been very difficult and I'm doing my best to keep it together. A few appropriate drugs may help me a bit, Xanax, Atavan, Valium...Hemlock.

Posted on Facebook on February 4, 2015

I am posting this update on Chris' situation. Currently, he is in the hospital with pneumonia, since Friday. He is not improving and as of this morning, his doctor told us there is nothing more they can do for him and he will not recover or leave the hospital. They are keeping him comfortable, but there's not much else they can do. It breaks my heart to post this news, but I know a lot of you out there love Chris and would want to know.

Thank you all so much for your prayers and healing thoughts. Now, we just wish for the most peaceful outcome. Bless you all! I will always love you, Chris Wolfe. Godspeed.

Posted on Facebook on February 6, 2015

It is with deep sadness and a broken heart that I have to tell you that Chris passed away at 5:00am Friday, February 6, 2015. His brother, Wise, was with him at the time. Although we are devastated on the loss of our dear Chris, we know he is at peace and is no longer suffering. There are many, many people who will mourn his loss, but I think Chris will now be with us where ever we go. The plan right now is to have a service in Natchez and bury him here as well. As I know the details, I will post the information. I would like to thank all of you who have been so supportive and kind, a lot of you are people I have never actually met but know through my fractal art or here on Facebook. And many of those who posted such wonderful comments have never had any contact with Chris at all. I truly appreciate what you all have done for us at this very difficult time. Words can not express how much it did help. God Bless you all and especially, Chris Wolfe. The world has lost an amazing individual, but he will never be forgotten by those who knew and loved him. Rest in Peace, Chris! I will love you forever. I hope I see you again in another time and another place. We can have some more fun and share our love again.

That cracking noise you hear is my heart.

Posted on Facebook on February 7, 2015

I wanted to give an update on the funeral arrangements for Chris. It isn't totally set in stone, but it's pretty close. Chris will have a full funeral mass service at St. Mary's Basilica Church in downtown Natchez at 10:00am on Saturday, February 14, 2015. Visitation will be at St. Mary's starting at 9:00am. We are hoping to bury him in the Natchez Cemetery, but that part is still to be arranged. The way things have gone, we couldn't be happier at how they have fallen into place. We chose the day and date without knowing if they were available at the church. So, we were extremely lucky that the funeral home and the church were both available. I cannot express the words to say how grateful and amazed at the kindness, caring, and generosity of the Natchez community!! You people are absolutely top-notch! I find myself running out of adjectives for "wonderful, super, superb, terrific, outstanding, incredible, magical, etc" which is what you all have been to Chris and I and continue to be in helping Chris start on the next leg of his adventure. I can never express my thanks to you in the way you all so richly deserve. I owe you all a great deal and may God Bless You All! Everyone!

Posted on Facebook on February 7, 2015 (later in the day)

This has been the most amazing day. For making the arrangements for Chris' funeral yesterday with his brother Wise, his sister Ginger and her husband, Ray Brown, Jr. They basically took things in hand and dealt with the matters that I know nothing about and would have been lost at sea had they not been there. Then, Wise, and Chris' and my best friends from New Orleans, Billy and Tammy Lannes, came and stayed at my house with me last night. We got home about 5:30pm and we sat up and talked and cried some and laughed a lot reminiscing about Chris and some of the outrageous things he has done, a lot of them with Billy L. We were up to 2:00am until we all ran out of gas. When they got up this morning, after coffee and Sonic breakfast toasters, they started cleaning my house!!! Vacuuming, sweeping, mopping, moving boxes and I can't begin to tell you all they have done. They are still at it and I haven't seen this much of the floor in my house for almost 6 years. Again, the sweet friends that Chris and I have jumped in with all their feet and did so much above and beyond anything I expected or even imagined!!! Thank you so much, Wise, Billy and Tammy!!! What more can I say?? As I said previously, I am running out of words to express my gratitude and love for these people.


Well, those are the main Facebook posts.  There are some others and some pictures of Chris and I (some from about 27 years ago) and of his family and I more recently.  Here's one from a loooooong time ago:  fbcdn-sphotos-e-a.akamaihd.net…


So, I will be fractaling again, but I'm not sure how much or when.  It's taking me a little bit of time to wrap my head around the this whole things.  But, I know I have some wonderful friends and family who will be there to help if I need it.  It means more than I can ever say.







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xgnyc's avatar
Hello my dear,
I have been away from DA for a while.. just coming on today to get updated with my messages and friends and maybe spiffy up my page, and I came across your posts in my feed.
I am so sorry for my lateness.. but I wanted to stop by and tell you how deeply sorry I am for your loss. My heart hurts for you! I hope you are doing well, and wish you healing and happiness.
He would want you to be happy and enjoy your life, and I do believe he is with you everyday! :hug: